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Genecia Alluora: I believe we can change the world, but that first, we've got to stop living in fear of being judged for who we are. Hi, I'm Genecia Alluora, founder of the number one leading female entrepreneur network in Southeast Asia, supporting 1 million women to own and love the F word. Being fabulous, having freedom, financial independence and family. With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams. So why? Secrets of the Soul Rich Woman Blueprint identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviors to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself to be recognized as a leader online, get clients online, and to have more impact on the world.

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Genecia Alluora: Stop believing the lies about who you are so you can become who you were meant to be. You are just an F word away from the life you want, the marriage you want, the family that you want is going to be fueled by the business and life you build. Join me, be a Soul Rich Woman. Alone we are strong. Together, we are unstoppable. Welcome to the show. I have a free gift for you. Go download secrets of personal branding. And how do you delegate 80% of your to do list so that you can make make money online while focusing on your zone of genius? Go to soulrichwoman.com.

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Genecia Alluora: Hello, gorgeous, and welcome to today's episode. Soul Why? Secrets of the Soul Rich Woman blueprint. I'm your host, Genecia Alluora. Today I want to talk about how I tried to hide myself by building when I was building Soul Rich Woman. I hide myself in a certain way that has a psychological impact on me that I didn't even notice until my mentor pointed it out to me. And I want to share this struggle with you running a female entrepreneur network and, of course, with Naysayers and Dream Slayers involved in this story and plot as well. Well, I want to highlight this because I see it as something critical that when we are in the limelight, when we are leaders, there will be people who are not vibrating at the level that you are vibrating at. Therefore, comments of sarcasm, jealousy, women thinking that you are different and therefore they can't do it. And there are so many things also happening in the background.

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Genecia Alluora: When I was earlier at the earlier stage of storage woman, I actually put on a lot of weight. I was nearly 70 kilos. I used to be 50. Okay. When I was missing Singapore, I was 50 kilos. Then later on, when I started a cafe retail chain, I was 55 and hovering between 57 to 58 kilos. Okay. So can you see my weight progression as my age progress as well? So as I do my cafe business, of course my weight increased because I was eating. I mean, of course, no excuses, but I just want to share with you my side of the story. So don't judge me. Is it okay you don't judge me? Is it okay you give me permission to say what I want to say so that I hope that through this sharing, you can learn something? Yeah. Okay. So I put on weight along the way, and one of the things of my biggest concern is that women may think that I'm overshadowing them because I'm tall, I'm slim. If I were to dress up in the way, then people will view me differently.

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Genecia Alluora: So I tried to hide, right? I kind of dressed down. Even during events, I dressed not the loudest. I dressed in a professional manner that kind of still try to hide in a certain way. So allowing other women to shine. So I don't know how I got this warped idea that now I'm looking back at myself, laughing, okay, but it's weird, right, how I get this notion that I want to let other women shine. So I choose to make myself ugly, put on weight. Eventually, I weigh 70 kilos and really fat, round, swollen. And of course, it was really, to me, okay, acceptable. It's all right, because as long as other women are happy, I'm happy. As long as they're happy. Lo and behold, it happens again. During mentorship, my mentor asked me, Geneciaa, are you really happy being fat and being round and being the way that you are? I mean, we are having really honest conversations, and I'm like, yeah. I mean, as long as other women are happy.

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Genecia Alluora: When we stand together, I'm not the they're the slimmest. I'm not the most beautiful with my blue color hair. I mean, I'm okay. And then my mentor said, look at the way you're talking. You're like backstabbing yourself, belittling yourself, playing small, telling yourself the lies that are not true, that ugly is good. And then for a moment, I was stunned, like a vegetable. And I thought about it for a moment. I said, okay, let me come back to you. I did some reflection. I did some inner work again, because probably my mentor noticed something that I didn't see. That's why mentors are super important. And I started looking at myself and reflecting on myself, doing some mirror work as well, and looking at the mirror and asking myself, do I love myself? How am I doing? Really? And digging so much deeper. Because it's a psychological thing, and it's very deep, right? Because sometimes we don't even notice and we are not even aware.

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Genecia Alluora: And after being aware of it, I realized that I wasn't happy being fat and round and overweight. I'm not really overweight. I'm one seven four in height, one seven four. My weight is 70 kilos. I'm not that overweight, but. 1.3s I just didn't feel good. I felt heavy. My legs were hurting. So I started to reflect all the things that were happening to me physically and psychologically. And then AHA moment came. Oh, I was hiding. I'm just using women as an excuse to just hide myself and not be able to stand my own light and own my light, thinking that by, oh, no, I want to let other women shine. So I disguise myself. I hide myself. That is incorrect. Why would I do that? I have no idea. But I did it anyway. Can you imagine? We actually can allow ourselves to shine brightly as other women that's around us. There's no need to play small because someone in order to allow others to shine. Could you reframe that? Can you restructure that thinking? The answer is yes. Because when I shine, I give other women the permission to shine.

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Genecia Alluora: When I slim down and embrace my own identity, I give other women the permission to shine and embrace their own identity. It was such liberating, that moment of understanding and awareness. And I'm like, wow, it. And so I made a decision to slim down, and I took up a special detox program with no pills, no supplements. It was a no oil, no oil, no salt, no oil, no sugar, no salt detox program, and was a program that I took up from my own mentee, my own very own student, that I crafted that for her, the detox chef. And I took the program from her. And within a month, 30 days, I dropped my weight. And within six weeks, I lost ten kilos. And I was back nearly 1.5s to 57 kilos. And right now, because I understood the process, I'm hovering between 57, 58, sometimes 56 kilos, depending on how much I eat. And I'm so much happier and on stage when I share this story of how I overcame my limiting beliefs and how I liberated myself, that by being who I am and owning my light, I was giving others the permission to shine.

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Genecia Alluora: And one of them, Janet Aisyah Quek, the lady I shared with you 9-5 employee turned instant podcast leader. She heard my story, and she also decided to embark on her own journey of liberating herself from being the way she was and then slim down and therefore being able to shine in her own way, in her own light. You know what? As I share this story, I am laughing at myself and how we catch we women catch ourselves up telling ourselves lies and nonsense about how we should and we should not do in order to let the people around us shine. But you know what the biggest of it all, the lesson of it all is that only truly, when you give your permission to shine, that you give others around you the permission to shine. Because alone, we are strong. Together we are unstoppable.

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Genecia Alluora: So, my dear Soul Rich Woman, let me share with you this. There are people less qualified than you doing the things you want to do simply because they decide to believe in themselves. Period. So it's time to awaken your mind and time to take the next step. Okay? So if you're interested, go check out our Soul Rich Woman blueprint audio books. Audio causes livestream and digital products at soulrichwoman.com. I hope today's session has inspired you to look at what kind of lies are you telling yourself? And it's time to break free. Go from stuck to unstoppable. Bye for now.

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Genecia Alluora: Thank you for joining me today. I would love you to connect with me on Linkedin, Facebook, or Instagram and share with me your thoughts on today's episode at Genecia Alluora. Alternatively, you can send me an email at hello@soulrichwoman.com. I have a free gift for you on our website. Secrets of personal branding and also how do you delegate 80% of your to do list to your assistant so you can make money online and focusing on your zone of genius? And that is available at soulrichwoman.com. Join the number one leading female entrepreneur network in Southeast Asia, connecting more than 200,000 women across the region. Be a Soul Rich Woman. Dream to shine. Woman leader, leader activated. Alone, you are strong. Together, we are unstoppable.