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Genecia Alluora: I have a free gift for you. Go download secrets of personal branding. And how do you delegate 80% of your to do list so that you can make make money online while focusing on your zone of genius? Go to soulrichwoman.com. I believe we can change the world, but that first, we've got to stop living in fear of being judged for who we are. Hi, I'm Genecia Alluora, founder of the number one leading female entrepreneur network in Southeast Asia, supporting 1 million women to own and love the F word. Being fabulous, having freedom, financial independence and family. With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams. So why? Secrets of the Soul Rich Woman Blueprint identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviors to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself to be recognized as a leader online, get clients online, and to have more impact on the world.

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Genecia Alluora: Stop believing the lies about who you are so you can become who you were meant to be. You are just an F word away from the life you want, the marriage you want, the family that you want is going to be fueled by the business and life you build. Join me, be a Soul Rich Woman. Alone we are strong. Together, we are unstoppable. Welcome to the show.

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Genecia Alluora: Hello, I'm Genecia Alluora. Thank you for joining me today. I want to talk about why I think and I believe that failures are actually good for me. Not sure about you, but I want to share with you today how having failed in different areas of my life, which I will list them out for you and how I have, you know, at first taken it very badly to now, looking back how I've overcome all these negative feelings to becoming where I am today. So the first time I remember I, I failed I mean in school academically was when I was in junior college. I didn't do well in junior college. In fact, I failed. And I repeated one year. So in Singapore Junior College, which is college, which is about two years, but it took me three years to complete and I completed with tears throughout the three years. First year. What was fun? First year was really fun, but later on it was no longer fun. It was torture and torture and torture. The reason why I failed because I was first and foremost, I went to the really good junior college. Okay? I went to Saint Andrew's Junior College. It was it was one of the top seven junior colleges back in my my days, my time. Okay.

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Genecia Alluora: And that in itself, I saw that I was taking Physics, Mathematics, Chemistry and Biology. So I was like, triple is called triple Science. And I realized that, yes, because everybody was going, all my friends from secondary school to go to JC they were like, okay, you know, triple Science is the best. That's the best way to be in, right? That's the best direction to go towards because then you'll be the the best that you can be because that's how we were told. So well, I followed kind of the crowd and I said, okay, let's do triple Science. And my grades permitted. I was able to take these subjects and then I discovered that I was not cut out for it, period. I was not cut out for theory. I was not cut out for just studying and just. Just not for me. I'm just not a studying kind of person. You know, I realize that I'm a very hands on person, very kinesthetic, hands on. I learn by doing. I literally learnt by doing so. I struggled because I realized that so much reading and analyzing and studying and I couldn't cope at all my brain just shut down.

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Genecia Alluora: And this continued. And I thought I didn't want to give up. I want to be like everybody else. I want to graduate with A level certification, which eventually I did, okay, but I just didn't do as well as I hope and still having to stay back another year while seeing my classmates graduate earlier than me was a torture and then also took a hit on myself esteem that I call myself a failure. I'm not good enough. I'm just. Not cut out for the education system in Singapore. I'm just so lousy. I'm stupid. So these are the names and the lies I tell myself throughout my entire three years. And can you imagine the damage it has done to my mind and my self esteem? It certainly has. And then by the time I finished my A-levels. I applied to a polytechnic that required the A-level certification. The means is not at all level certificate to apply to my occupational therapy, which is in a diploma in in Nanyang Polytechnic. It was not that it would still require an A-level cert, so I took that A-level cert and put it to good use with my almost F grades to apply to the poly.

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Genecia Alluora: I got in to occupational therapy, and in the three years, even though I have my ups and downs, I will tell you I thrived. I realised that I'm really someone who learn by doing and not just by reading. And I'm someone who needs to be in action to get things done. So that's my style. And I realised that my failures back then, the three years in JC, I, I keep telling myself I'm so stupid, you know, you can't study. You're just not cut out for the education system has kind of affected myself and my self esteem through my years. And on top of it, when I went to poly, can you imagine the work already done, the damage already done to me even further on top of having to support myself through school since I was 14, not having enough money have to put myself through the education system. So it's kind of like, Oh my god, life just sucks. So looking back at all these school failures. I would say. It set me back cause I had a lot more inner work to do. A lot more inner healing work to do. And plus the fact that. With all the bullying that I've gone through. So it's kind of like accumulated. But what's positive is that now that I've graduated and started my own business, I look back.

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Genecia Alluora: I'm glad I've gone through all these failures to learn about who I am and what I'm really good at, which is, you know, to do business online, to be able to build up systems and processes and lead a big team and now even hiring graduates. So I'm not a graduate, right? I'm hiring graduates to work for me. So I am just looking at myself and just saying that. Hey. You know, our failure doesn't determine our future. Our failure don't determine who we will become. We will still need to decide on the actions to take. So I accepted my failures. I do a lot of inner healing work to let go of all the bullshit I tell myself that I'm not good enough. I'm such a failure because it's really tough psychologically. I mean, I could have just given up my life. I could go both ways, right? I could just have given up my life and said, you know, I'm just not cut out for the education system and just, you know, throw it away and not study anymore and just be another type of Genecia and not be the Genecia here today. Right. But you see, that is why we need good people around us. We need to have good people, good friends, you know, mentors who will watch out for us and guide us.

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Genecia Alluora: If there was something that I would like to tell my younger self during my college days and my poly days is that I should have invested in myself earlier on to get a mentor. Not just when I'm doing business, then get a mentor like get a mentor way earlier on, like get a coach, you know, because only then probably I would have gotten out of my bullshit earlier or the lies that we tell ourselves. I tell myself that you are telling yourself right now because everything that we say that we think about becomes our blueprint. Everything that we think right now and we say right now becomes our blueprint. So what you think and what you tell yourself is super important. And I'm glad that because of my background, I was managed to I managed to kind of like have the exposure of doing inner healing work. And I'm so grateful for that I can now say that, yes, all these failures were were kind of like teaching me three things, in fact. First, my failure does not equal to my future.
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Genecia Alluora: Number two doesn't mean that I can't study means I'm stupid. It really means that, you know, I'm better in something else, which means, you know, now look at my success. Like running cafe retail chain, running the largest female entrepreneur network in Southeast Asia. And the last thing I learned about myself is that whatever we speak and think becomes our reality. So what are you thinking and speaking to yourself right now? Why are you telling yourself every single time when you fail? So I think failures are good, but just that, what do you tell yourself after and who do you have around you surrounding you and supporting you? So, my friend , time to take action. Okay. And look, looking forward to speaking to you in the next episode.

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Genecia Alluora: Thank you for joining me today. I would love you to connect with me on Linkedin, Facebook, or Instagram and share with me your thoughts on today's episode at Genecia Alluora. Alternatively, you can send me an email at hello@soulrichwoman.com. I have a free gift for you on our website. Secrets of personal branding and also how do you delegate 80% of your to do list to your assistant so you can make money online and focusing on your zone of genius? And that is available at soulrichwoman.com. Join the number one leading female entrepreneur network in Southeast Asia, connecting more than 200,000 women across the region. Be a Soul Rich Woman. Dream to shine. Woman leader, leader activated. Alone, you are strong. Together, we are unstoppable.