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Genecia Alluora: I believe we can change the world, but that first, we've got to stop living in fear of being judged for who we are. Hi, I'm Genecia Alluora, founder of the number one leading female entrepreneur network in Southeast Asia, supporting 1 million women to own and love the F word. Being fabulous, having freedom, financial independence and family. With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams. So why? Secrets of the Soul Rich Woman Blueprint identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviors to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself to be recognized as a leader online, get clients online, and to have more impact on the world.

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Genecia Alluora: Stop believing the lies about who you are so you can become who you were meant to be. You are just an F word away from the life you want, the marriage you want, the family that you want is going to be fueled by the business and life you build. Join me, be a Soul Rich Woman. Alone we are strong. Together, we are unstoppable. Welcome to the show.

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Genecia Alluora: Hello and welcome to today's episode. My name is Genecia Alluora. Welcome. Welcome. I want to share with you about how my dream came true, because I choose to focus on one thing and to dedicate my time on that thing instead of going all over the place, which means being jack of all trades, master of none, versus being seen as a leader, an expert thought leader, business owner in a single area. And laser focus got me to where I am today. So my dream came true recently, I was one of the speakers at the Success Resources Virtual event alongside Jay Abraham, T Half Acre on different subjects that we are strong in and that we talk about being placed beside them on the posters to me meant a great deal. That means, you know, when you are being recognized and you are being seen as a leader, well, that will really transform your life and your business. So I'm very glad that it happened. And it was not by chance, it was not overnight because it happened gradually over the years. In 2017, I was already in Philippines speaking alongside with Mary Buffet as well as in Hong Kong with Gary Vaynerchuk. And then later on in 2018, on the same stage with Peng Joon, with Neil Patel and so on and so forth, it's kind of like, you know, you got to take steps, baby steps to move closer to your goals, right?

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Genecia Alluora: So what was that one thing I focused on? I remembered when I was having my mentorship with James, James Wee now also the partner in Soul Rich woman, he told me, he said, Genecia, what are you doing every day right now? And I'm like, Yeah, I'm just doing like usual stuff, like operations where, you know, marketing and sales and, you know, helping different people, going for different speaking gigs and, you know, busy events. And I was just basically listing out every possible thing that I was busy with. And then he said. Well, what is actually your goal? You know, every single month and every single year and ultimate dream, you know? And then he he said and then I was like, okay, yes, I am. I want to be a global speaker, you know, while building Soul Rich Woman. We are growing our our membership. You know, and reaching out and empowering women to own and love the F-word, which is being fabulous, having freedom, financial independence and family, and above all, knowing that they can bring their business online, bring their leadership online, whether it's in 9 to 5 employees, is it entrepreneurs, Stay at home moms. We want to make it possible for every single woman here in Southeast Asia and in Asia

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Genecia Alluora: And I looked at my time spent, I was like, I didn't have a lot of time left, it seems I was so busy with everybody else's project, busy with everything else. And James said one thing that kind of let me pause just like how I paused earlier on. I'm like, Hey, I'm just busy with busyness and not really busy in my dreams and my business. And that was like an aha moment for me. At that very moment in time, I'm thinking, Oh, I didn't focus on that one thing. And James said, Genecia if you want to be that global speaker then you have to let go of all the small things. At that moment, I realized that we humans have this need to feel significant. And sometimes being the founder of the company, CEO of the company, we become the chokepoint or the bottleneck for our businesses because we are not prioritizing. Or maybe we think we thought that we are prioritizing, but actually we are just busy with everybody else's things, events, dreams and everything else. So I reflected over a, I would say, weeks thinking about what he said, because I struggled, right? I mean, I'm human as well. And I struggle with this notion of letting go of all the things that I'm doing, you know, busy with attending events, helping another person, you know, to give another webinar, going to another platform to, to do things, you know, collaborate and do this, look for sponsors, look for partnerships and everything else.

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Genecia Alluora: And it came. I came to a conclusion and the conclusion was, Wow! I must let go of the need to feel significant by you know, being so busy with everything else. I wanted to feel important, to be busy with helping my different different friends, different girlfriends, different community people, you know, just want to just be helping everybody. But like, you know what? We only have 24 hours a day, literally 24 hours a day, and we have a dream and we only have limited time. And by the time I grow old, I don't want to look back and have regrets. So it was kind of like toggling between all these mental blocks and tug of war and all these things. So you know what I took out from my tool kit? Parts integration. I kind of did like an integration of my soul by using my technique. And I kind of integrated different parts, like broken pieces of me, kind of like the tug of war, parts of me. I wrote it down on a piece of paper. I drew out the different parts that were that were talking to me. I was aware of the noises between my ears. And then I put the pieces up and I said. Unconscious mind. Let them integrate.

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Genecia Alluora: Unconscious mind, let them integrate. And then I call out to the universe and say, God. I want to integrate all these pieces and move to the higher purpose where I'm at and I'm supposed to be vibrating at. And it happened and over a period of time. In fact, in the next few days, I started to feel a difference in the way I look at things and the way I do my busyness. So I started to drop off certain projects and kind of like collaborations with people. And instead of even starting as I declined learning to set healthy boundaries and saying no and remembering what my mentor, James, he told me, he said, I'd rather not be doing anything and be thinking about my business on how I can achieve my dreams and doing exactly just that to achieve that one thing and one thing only. So that year I dropped everything and and I chose to only focus on big projects. And guess what? When the time came, Success Resources contacted me and said, Hey, Genecia, are you able to come for a meeting immediately? And that, you know, we want you to be a speaker sign on speaker for our platform.

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Genecia Alluora: And because I was no longer busy with busyness, I was choosing to focus on one thing and one thing only. And this happened, I was able to respond positively to the appointment and went ahead with the meeting and that was how it got started. And in 2019 I spoke on the same stage as the key speaker with Kim Kiyosaki, and I was also the host of the entire event with 1000 women sitting there in Singapore Expo and, you know, being there to equip and empower women alongside big names and meeting Kim Kiyosaki, herself in person, being able to sit down and have coffee with her and asking her this cash flow queen, what she's really thinking about and picking her brains. And by just doing this one thing, which is to focus on the one thing and one thing only. And then not having the need to be significant or feel significant by being busy with everything else or everybody else's dreams or everybody else's things or things that are not so important. But I think it's important. But actually, by my mentors kind of like viewpoint, I'm doing a lot of not important things and by really letting go has helped me to achieve my dreams.

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Genecia Alluora: Now, I'm not asking you to give up everything that you are doing and then just do nothing. That's not what I did. I let go of all the small things while focusing on getting there towards my dreams. Like, for example, I was, you know, focused more on recording and creating digital products, ready for, you know, helping more women. I was recording my auto webinars. I was doing, you know, marketing. So things then lead up to the bigger piece that, you know, that I am worthy and and deserving of that dream. So are you unraveling that piece or the mystery right now that are you doing that thing that is leading up exactly to your dream? Like if you want to be that speaker that recognized on a global stage, you want to be able to speak, to sell, to empower, inspire people around the world. Then are you doing the things that is leading up to that or are you just trying to be playing small and telling yourself the lies that or I need to be everything to everybody, Then I can achieve my dream or my dream can wait. What is the story that you are telling yourself?

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Genecia Alluora: So today I want to encourage you to look into focusing on the one thing that you can focus on on your dream and exactly the steps to get there. So if you are stuck, you are uncertain. You're still not sure. You know what? I'm here to help. You can always connect with me, book my time, schedule a clarity call or 45 minutes coaching call with me, and I'll be able to assist you and help you and guide you through to go from Stuck to Unstoppable like how my mentor did with me. To get myself from stuck to unstoppable. And therefore, today, being able to stand on a global stage along big names and speaking along side with them, having coffee with them, having connections with them just by phone directly, I can WhatsApp them, I can talk to them and all these would not have been possible if I had not done the first step, which was to let go of all the small things and then keep focusing on that one thing. And the one thing that brings me to the next step closer to my dreams. So what are you doing with your life right now? So take care. Let me know what you thought about today's episode, and I look forward to seeing you in the next one. Bye for now.

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Genecia Alluora: Thank you for joining me today. I would love you to connect with me on Linkedin, Facebook, or Instagram and share with me your thoughts on today's episode at Genecia Alluora. Alternatively, you can send me an email at hello@soulrichwoman.com. I have a free gift for you on our website. Secrets of personal branding and also how do you delegate 80% of your to do list to your assistant so you can make money online and focusing on your zone of genius? And that is available at soulrichwoman.com. Join the number one leading female entrepreneur network in Southeast Asia, connecting more than 200,000 women across the region. Be a Soul Rich Woman. Dream to shine. Woman leader, leader activated. Alone, you are strong. Together, we are unstoppable.