162: Money Memories And Forgiveness Action Steps
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Genecia Alluora: Hey gorgeous. Welcome to this episode. This episode is all about money, memories and forgiveness. Forgiveness and love are two of the most powerful forces in the universe. Imagine what's possible when you apply these forces to your money absolute magic and transformation.
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Genecia Alluora: Forgiveness is the ultimate tool for decluttering your mental money crap and is the foundation to build and own your effort. Fabulous freedom, financial independence and happy family. Releasing all your money memories will uncover the limiting self beliefs, stories and underlying negative thoughts that you have about money. So step one, make a list. Make a list of 20 to 100 memories around money, particularly anything that still has an emotional charge of anger, resentment, embarrassment, shame, tiredness, burnout.
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Genecia Alluora: These memories have shipped your thoughts and feelings about money and it's time to declutter them through the process of forgiveness. Be very specific. At least the actual accident list out the actual incident, including whom the party was involved. For example, when Joanne stole my pocket money during the time I was playing on the playground. My boss John told me I wasn't getting a salary increase. When Sitti stole my friend's t-shirt. When my father told me that money doesn't grow on trees. When my ex-husband took me to court over money.
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Genecia Alluora: Step two look for patterns. What stories and beliefs came from those memories. For example, I'm never allowed to have what I want. I'm going to be disappointed if I set a big goal. I'm not allowed to charge premium prices for my business and service. Only greedy people have money. Only greedy people charge premium prices. Creative people never make a good living. I always get betrayed. You can't trust anyone.
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Genecia Alluora: Each of these above memories resulted in a micro decision about your money and your ability to earn, spend or receive it. Your patterns become your story and your story becomes your reality. Step three, clear and forgive. It's time to release the old energy, resentment, anger and stories around each memory and allow yourself to experience the abundance the universe wants to give you to all and love your F word. Once you have your money memory list, go through each one of them and remember what it felt like. Then you say the forgiveness mantra like this, I forgive you, I'm sorry. I thank you and I love you. Say it again. I forgive you. I'm sorry. I thank you and I love you. Repeat one more time.
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Genecia Alluora: I forgive you, I'm sorry, thank you and I love you. Then cross out the memory and move on to the next one. I know you'll say, Genecia really so simple? Yes, my dear. It's simple, powerful, and it really works. But here's a but for you. Don't wait until a perfect moment to do this. Don't wait until the moon and the stars and the sun is aligned. Then you do this.
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Genecia Alluora: Don't wait until you feel like it. Then you do this. Don't have to get naked or put some candles, aroma therapy, although you can. But you don't have to do that to get this done. You don't have to wait for the stars to align. Remember, you can forgive during good days and bad days, even during the Mercury retrograde or any time, as long as you're willing to. The universe will move with you. And for you, you do the forgiveness work for yourself. Not for me, not for anyone else. And the purpose of that is to free yourself from the burden of carrying old memories and resentments that are holding you back.
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Genecia Alluora: It doesn't mean that it wasn't a bad experience. It doesn't mean that they were right and you are wrong. You are just releasing it so you no longer have to carry it with you. So what can you expect afterwards? All I can say is it's normal to feel tired after this exercise. You might feel upset and cry. You could feel lighter as well. Or you might feel ambivalent. So the key thing here is this. Share your story. You can write into me at hello@soulrichwoman.com. Send an email. Find me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok and @geneciaalluora or just go to our group, Soul Rich Woman.
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Genecia Alluora: Go there and share your story. Remember, you are breaking the cycle, creating new memories and creating a new foundation for your money. Share the memories, including any AHAs around the story you created and what micro decisions or decisions you made in your life because of it. My dear, my dear soul rich woman, be brave, be courageous. It's your time and you are ready for the next step. I know some of you may ask me, Genecia, how does forgiveness impact my income? Okay, let me explain. Right, allow me to explain.
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Genecia Alluora: How does forgiveness impact my income or your income? Now, forgiveness is an incredibly powerful clearing technique. And remember, the clearer you are, the quicker you manifest. Listen closely. The clearer you are, the quicker you manifest. Which means the lesser the junk between the distance of you and your goals and your dreams, the faster you will get what you want. And most of the time, people go round and round in circles getting stuck is because there's a lot of junk, a lot of resentment, a lot of stuff between the two points. So most of your money blocks are based on old stories. Resentments, anger, shame and blame.
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Genecia Alluora: When you release it, you give yourself permission to earn more. Try it and see. And let me know. The other question that you might ask me is, is forgiving someone condoning their behavior? Or is forgiving someone means that he or she is right and I'm wrong. Okay, let's be clear. It's not always like that, all right? You are just releasing yourself from carrying any blame, shame, resentment or anger. Forgiveness doesn't make the hurt correct or hurt the right way. It is just a way to release it into the universe.
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Genecia Alluora: I know you said forgive but cannot forget. Okay, I accept that. Then let it be something that you hang in your hall or hang on the wall, right? Put it one side and then through forgiveness it will no longer have any charge or any energy that will hold you back. So you are just really releasing yourself from caring all the burden, the shame, the blame, the resentment, the anger, the guilt. Okay, all right.
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Genecia Alluora: The other question that I always get asked. I have someone I cannot forgive. What now? Okay, I hear you. I understand that you have someone that you cannot forgive forever and ever to the grief. All right, I totally get you. My question for you will be how is it serving you by holding on to it? How is it benefiting you by you holding on to this? Forgiveness is a gift for yourself. It's not condoning or saying that they are correct and you are wrong or rationalizing. Why, what, when, how they hurt you.
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Genecia Alluora: It is said that holding on to resentment is like cancer. It's like drinking poison and hoping other people will die. And you often hear me say that in my program. Holding on to resentment, shame, guilt, blame, whatever, is like taking poison and hoping the other person will die. And it's not healthy to carry that anymore because you might feel entitled to be angry, I get it. But it really doesn't benefit you at all. So try it and see if it will help to release some of your resentment. Stop drinking the poison and causing your own cancer. Also really revisit the forgiveness exercise as and when you need to and as often as you like.
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Genecia Alluora: I know that you can sometimes do it all at one shot. So yeah, this might take several times. Remember what I always say lie is like a box of tissue paper. It's a limitless and bottomless box of tissue paper. It just keeps healing and healing and healing and that is what you will do and what you can do for yourself. All right, the next question. Does it have to be someone I know, Genecia? Does it have to be someone I know or a person at all that I need to forgive? Okay, not at all.
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Genecia Alluora: You can forgive institutions, laws, famous people dead or alive. Really serious, not kidding. Because sometimes there are perceptions or maybe what you read. Remember when I said you are the person? You read the books you read, the movies, you watch, the songs you listen to, the people you hang out with, date or like. All this impacts you, right? So these lead imprints in us. So does it have to be someone you know or a person at all? The answer is no. So you can forgive like the president, your prime minister, your politicians, fictional characters, corporations, concepts, et cetera. Forgive everything and everyone.
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Genecia Alluora: Next question. How often should I do this? You ask me all the time. Well, basically, you can't overdose on forgiveness. This was one of my biggest, I would say one of my biggest exercise that I did over the years when I first encountered healing, and to really break through in my own life. So you can't overdose on forgiveness. However, you might also want to take a break in between if it's particularly intense. So sometimes it's really very difficult or gets very emotional for you, that's okay. Accept that.
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Genecia Alluora: All right, remember, don't have to be perfect doing this. You can overdose on this. Take a break if you have to and come back to it. It's a tool that you have picked up and I've shared with you and this is with you for life. So during the next round of forgiveness, you can write an entire new list to see what comes up. Some memories will have been released forever. Trust me on this. Then you can learn to forgive in a moment, in an instant, so it doesn't become a part of you and this will become a habit.
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Genecia Alluora: All right, I love you and I send you my love and I'll speak to you soon. Remember, be brave, be courageous. This is your time and you are ready for your next step. Bye for now.