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Genecia Alluora: I believe we can change the world, but that first, we've got to stop living in fear of being judged for who we are. Hi, I'm Genecia Alluora, founder of the number one leading female entrepreneur network in Southeast Asia, supporting 1 million women to own and love the F word. Being fabulous, having freedom, financial independence and family. With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams. So why? Secrets of the Soul Rich Woman Blueprint identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviors to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself to be recognized as a leader online, get clients online, and to have more impact on the world.

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Genecia Alluora: Stop believing the lies about who you are so you can become who you were meant to be. You are just an F word away from the life you want, the marriage you want, the family that you want is going to be fueled by the business and life you build. Join me, be a Soul Rich Woman. Alone we are strong. Together, we are unstoppable. Welcome to the show. I have a free gift for you. Go download secrets of personal branding. And how do you delegate 80% of your to do list so that you can make make money online while focusing on your zone of genius? Go to soulrichwoman.com.

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Genecia Alluora: Hello and welcome to today's episode. I'm so glad that you are here today. Now, today I want to talk about how to say no and establish what I call the healthy boundaries online. Now that you know everyone is being forced to go online, people are forced to move online, how then can you be seen taking care of your own time? A lot of times we think that we must do certain things to be, you know, pleasing people. We want to take care of their feelings and emotions, but not forgetting how we are focusing and targeting our own feelings and emotions as well. So at this point, I want to share with you an example. You know, people have been contacting me to be a speaker on their platforms, to be doing joint collaborations, to do webinars, to do things together. And I realized that all these are not aligned to my goals. So when someone sent me an invitation on LinkedIn or Facebook or Instagram, you must always be looking at how are you aligning your path and direction in itself. Because if you're not aligned, you know you're going to waste time going round and round in circles. So what I recommend is when someone writes to you certain things, you're going to be asking yourself, what is your goal?
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Genecia Alluora: For the month. For the year. Okay. Begin with an end in mind. What are you doing, right? So recently I've got this lady right to me wanting to invite me to be a speaker on her platform. So she's going to talk about money, right? She wanted to put together a pool of women to do a series of webinars about money, about certain things that, you know, can empower another woman in terms of mindset and money. And the requirement was to do a 20 minute webinar recorded for her in a recommended topic that she has provided to me. So I thought she was really quite interesting because first and foremost she was very polite and and that's what I love about her, right? Networking online. She's very polite. She's doing the things that I feel that she's doing it quite correctly, meaning that she's not pushy. She's she's listing down like how much time is required from my side. Even though it's 20 minutes, it's not paid. Okay. And she said that, you know, it's by affiliate. That means if people sign up to her event via my link, we will receive a small commission to be paid to us when we do this, when I do this 20 minutes webinar for her.

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Genecia Alluora: And then if furthermore, there were any sales, then I would actually be receiving more money from that. The first thing. First and foremost, Soul Rich Woman is already a platform and we are already running auto webinars and webinars and live streams and recorded events and we're already doing like summits. We're already doing all these things. When I talk about alignment of goals, this is where it comes in. Is it aligned? So you're going to ask yourself someone who is asking me to do the same thing than what I'm already doing, and I have to take an extra effort to record something else off the topic to fit her the other party's topic. And then there's more things that needs to be done and I need to market for her to drive traffic to that event and to that platform. So the question is, is this suitable for Soul Rich Woman? Is it suitable for me? I just felt that it's it's not really that suitable because since we are already doing it, what leverage or value exchange is she putting on a table or that organizer is putting on the table? What is the value exchange you are putting on the table? So when we talk about setting healthy boundaries and things like that, I'm not asking you to say no upfront. I'm asking you to consider what is the value exchange that is in the flow in the process of looking at this so called invitation.

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Genecia Alluora: So for me, when I look at it, there is no value exchange because at this point in time we are already doing it. We are already driving our own traffic. We are already running Facebook ads. We are running Instagram ads, we are running LinkedIn ads. We are doing so many things right now to drive traffic to our webinars, our live streams. Why is it that I need to give someone else the traffic? What kind of leverage is that? Right? So when you are looking at a platform, that is one of the reasons why value exchange, who are you working with? You are the average of the five people you hang out with the most. And that is why we work with Success Resources. I choose to work with Richard Tan and Veronica Tan from Success Resources because when we work with them, we have leverage. There is a value exchange. We stand beside big giants. Like recently I stood beside the T half Acre, Jay Abraham and all the big names to conduct online virtual classes, online virtual webinars for people around the world by success resources.

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Genecia Alluora: And because of this, I'm willing to invest my time to work with them. So when you're looking in your business, you're going to ask yourself, what is the value exchange that both parties can put on the table between me and success resources? I've got my own brand and they have their own brand and you know, I have something that they want. They have something that I want, and we come together to play win, win together, we win. So are you playing win win together? You win with that person whom has invited you to speak, invited you to do things, and aligning it with your goal, right? Aligning it with your monthly goal and yearly goal always begin with an end in mind. So for me, in the end, of course, I said no. And the way I said no is, you know, I told her, I said, I'm so sorry, my plates are full. I'm keeping it good, right? So don't be rude when you're talking to people online, because people remember it's always the way you make them feel. Just say no. Maybe time is not right. At the moment, my plates are full. And then thank you very much. And, you know, keep shining and keep your dreams burning and keep keeping it alive.

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Genecia Alluora: So it's always being cordial and knowing that you need to be professional, even though you do not wish to take up the project. You know, don't go and criticize people or, you know, put people down because, hey, people are just starting out and they have a dream. So just give them an opportunity to say, okay, thank you very much and just move on. Right? So that's how you kind of like say no nicely. And then if they ask for a recommendation like, could you refer me another speaker or someone? Is there someone that whom you can refer me to? Then just give them another name, you know, or someone else whom you think is more suitable for her platform and profile. So that's how you can set healthy boundaries online. Learning to say no, without, you know, kind of offending people and still maintaining your timetable and schedule to be on track so that you can really still, you know, achieve your goals moving forward without getting distracted, staying focused and knowing that networking online and learning to say no are in tandem. They must work hand in hand with each other. Okay. Remember, never give up and, you know, keep on going. I love you all and stay connected. Okay. Let me know what you think about today's episode. Connect with me on LinkedIn, Facebook and Instagram aat Genecia Alluora. I love you and speak to you soon. Bye for now.

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Genecia Alluora: Thank you for joining me today. I would love you to connect with me on Linkedin, Facebook, or Instagram and share with me your thoughts on today's episode at Genecia Alluora. Alternatively, you can send me an email at hello@soulrichwoman.com. I have a free gift for you on our website. Secrets of personal branding and also how do you delegate 80% of your to do list to your assistant so you can make money online and focusing on your zone of genius? And that is available at soulrichwoman.com. Join the number one leading female entrepreneur network in Southeast Asia, connecting more than 200,000 women across the region. Be a Soul Rich Woman. Dream to shine. Woman leader, leader activated. Alone, you are strong. Together, we are unstoppable.